Falling
Many people are quick to get into love relationships. It does not take much for them to begin to feel overwhelming good feelings that send them into orbit. Falling in love is easy for them. In fact, they seem to fall in love as soon as they fall out of love.
They are quick to draw conclusions. “He loves me” and “I just know he is the right guy for me,” are commonly heard statements soon after they jump into a relationship. When you ask them what they know about the guy, you learn that they know very little. Still, they insist that they “just know.” It’s all about feelings and they trust their feelings.
More often than not, their feelings betray them. After a time, they realize that it was all a mistake. He isn’t the guy they thought he was. Well, they did not think. Instead they made the decision to commit based on feelings. Feelings are tricky. They don’t think. They just feel. And feelings are like the weather. They change, and often they change quickly without notice.
If you have a history of jumping in and out of relationships quickly; if you believe you cannot live without a man; if the time between relationships feels like a living hell, then you may be the problem.
Desperate people behave in desperate ways. They do things that ordinarily they would not do. They tend to overreact because of feelings taken to the extreme. They have strong swings of emotions and have difficulty keeping their feelings under control. This leads them into all kinds of problems. When feelings lead the way, instead of good thinking, you can be sure that the way will be difficult and unpredictable.
Whirlwind courtships usually end up in stormy waters. The reason being that love relationships are serious matters that calls for some serious thought and a good control of feelings. Strong feelings can easily cloud the thought process. This is why we often make the wrong decisions in life. Our head tells us to move in this direction, but because of feelings we move in the opposite direction and things don’t work out. We knew what we had to do but did not do it.
We do not like to admit it, but the truth is that more often than not we decide things with our feelings rather than with our head. We trust our feelings more than we trust our thinking.
Try telling the woman who is madly (insanely) in love with her drug-addicted boyfriend who doesn’t have a job and never finished school that he is a high-risk guy. She won’t listen to you much less follow your advice to walk away. Her feelings tell her that he will change and that their love will overcome any and all obstacles in their way.
If you have problems about drugs, alcohol and behavior/attitude call my office at 820-6107 or 825-1771 or email me at gvcbuenca@vasia.com or write me at P.O. Box 2099 MCPO, Makati City.
They are quick to draw conclusions. “He loves me” and “I just know he is the right guy for me,” are commonly heard statements soon after they jump into a relationship. When you ask them what they know about the guy, you learn that they know very little. Still, they insist that they “just know.” It’s all about feelings and they trust their feelings.
More often than not, their feelings betray them. After a time, they realize that it was all a mistake. He isn’t the guy they thought he was. Well, they did not think. Instead they made the decision to commit based on feelings. Feelings are tricky. They don’t think. They just feel. And feelings are like the weather. They change, and often they change quickly without notice.
If you have a history of jumping in and out of relationships quickly; if you believe you cannot live without a man; if the time between relationships feels like a living hell, then you may be the problem.
Desperate people behave in desperate ways. They do things that ordinarily they would not do. They tend to overreact because of feelings taken to the extreme. They have strong swings of emotions and have difficulty keeping their feelings under control. This leads them into all kinds of problems. When feelings lead the way, instead of good thinking, you can be sure that the way will be difficult and unpredictable.
Whirlwind courtships usually end up in stormy waters. The reason being that love relationships are serious matters that calls for some serious thought and a good control of feelings. Strong feelings can easily cloud the thought process. This is why we often make the wrong decisions in life. Our head tells us to move in this direction, but because of feelings we move in the opposite direction and things don’t work out. We knew what we had to do but did not do it.
We do not like to admit it, but the truth is that more often than not we decide things with our feelings rather than with our head. We trust our feelings more than we trust our thinking.
Try telling the woman who is madly (insanely) in love with her drug-addicted boyfriend who doesn’t have a job and never finished school that he is a high-risk guy. She won’t listen to you much less follow your advice to walk away. Her feelings tell her that he will change and that their love will overcome any and all obstacles in their way.
If you have problems about drugs, alcohol and behavior/attitude call my office at 820-6107 or 825-1771 or email me at gvcbuenca@vasia.com or write me at P.O. Box 2099 MCPO, Makati City.
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